Welcome to the new AbusedMen.org. This site is more or less permanently under construction, as I will always be adding to it. Please use the main menu above and (eventually) the sub-menu to the right.
This site is run by me, Damien Moody. I'm not a medical professional of any kind - just a guy who's been through it who wants to provide this online resource for other guys to know that none of us have to go through our ordeal alone. From 1999 to 2005, I was engaged and then married to a woman who became increasingly abusive. While my story pales in comparison to those of many male survivors and victims of intimate partner violence, that period of my life was hands-down the most difficult and destructive. To this day, I'm dealing with the fallout of the abuse I received. But I have had a lot of time to reflect on and learn from my experience, the result of which is this site.
Independent research and studies clearly indicate that men suffer at the hands of their partners just as much as women suffer at the hands of their partners. However, there are nowhere near the number of resources available for male victims of domestic and intimate partner violence as there are for women. It is my hope that this site will contribute to society's general awareness of the actual scope of domestic and intimate partner violence. It is not the sole domain of men to beat, and it is not the sole domain of women to suffer. In order for domestic and intimate partner violence to end, it must end for all.
The fact is that the "macho" male stereotype and "innocent" female stereotype are so ingrained into mainstream culture that television programs and advertisements routinely depict men being abused by women. It's even called comedy. In real life, a nice guy getting slapped in the face by a woman is not funny. It hurts. More than physically, it hurts on a deep, psychological level. And like most situations involving abuse, a slap to the face is only the beginning.
If you would like to get in touch - to contribute or to comment (constructively), you are welcome to email me at webmaster at abusedmen dot org.
Note: Publication dates for documents on this site are given in the YYYY-MM-DD format.