- Published: Sunday, 05 January 2014 16:35
- Written by Damien Moody
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This site was founded by me, Damien Moody, in 2011. I'm not a medical professional of any kind - just a guy who's been through it who wants to provide this online resource for other guys. From experience, I know that there is nothing shameful or wrong in admitting that we've been mistreated by our female partners. We have as much responsibility to ourselves as we do to our family members. And none of us should have to go through the ordeal of recovery and healing alone. If you are a man being mistreated by your female partner, you have every right to be treated with as much dignity and respect as a female being mistreated by a male. Coming forward and seeking help does not make you any less of a man.
From 1999 to 2005, I was engaged and then married to a woman who became increasingly abusive. While my story pales in comparison to those of many male survivors and victims of intimate partner violence, that period of my life was hands-down the most difficult and destructive. To this day, I'm dealing with the fallout of the abuse I received. But I have had a lot of time to reflect on and learn from my experience, the result of which is this site.
Independent research and studies clearly indicate that men suffer at the hands of their partners just as much as women suffer at the hands of their partners. However, there are nowhere near the number of resources available for male victims of domestic and intimate partner violence as there are for women. It is my hope that this site will contribute to society's general awareness of the actual scope of domestic and intimate partner violence. It is not the sole domain of men to beat, and it is not the sole domain of women to suffer. In order for domestic and intimate partner violence to end, it must end for all.
The fact is that the "macho" male stereotype and "innocent" female stereotype are so ingrained into mainstream culture that television programs and advertisements routinely depict men being abused by women. It's even called comedy. In real life, a nice guy getting slapped in the face by a woman is not funny. It hurts. More than physically, it hurts psychologically. And like most situations involving abuse, a slap to the face is only the beginning.